{"id":2411,"date":"2026-07-15T01:00:00","date_gmt":"2026-07-15T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/rahmah.live\/?p=2411"},"modified":"2026-03-03T14:11:59","modified_gmt":"2026-03-03T14:11:59","slug":"nobody-has-all-good-or-all-evil","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/rahmah.live\/es\/blog\/nobody-has-all-good-or-all-evil\/","title":{"rendered":"Nobody has all good or all evil"},"content":{"rendered":"

The Trap of Perfectionism and Demonization<\/strong> In the age of social media, we are quick to “cancel” someone for a single mistake or put others on a pedestal as if they are beyond reproach. This binary way of thinking is exhausting. When we expect perfection from others (or ourselves), we set everyone up for failure. Conversely, when we write someone off as purely “evil,” we close the door to their transformation and our own compassion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Concept of the Nafs<\/strong> In Islamic psychology, the human self is known as the Nafs<\/strong>. According to the Glossary of Islamic Terms<\/em>, the Nafs<\/strong> is the “soul” or “self,” and it has different states. It can be Ammara<\/strong> (prone to evil), Lawwama<\/strong> (self-reproaching\/guilty), or Mutma’inna<\/strong> (at peace). Because these states can shift, no person is permanently fixed in one category. Even the best people struggle with internal weaknesses, and even those who have strayed far still carry the Fitra<\/strong>\u2014the innate, pure disposition placed in them by the Creator.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Balance of \u2018Adl and Rahmah<\/strong> Living with the realization that nobody is all good or all evil requires a balance of \u2018Adl<\/strong> (justice) and Rahmah<\/strong> (mercy). The glossary defines \u2018Adl<\/strong> as “distributive justice” and Rahmah<\/strong> as “compassion.” We must be just enough to recognize a mistake, but merciful enough to recognize a person’s humanity. The Prophet Muhammad taught that “all of the children of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent.” This leveled the playing field, reminding us that we are all works in progress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Finding Peace Through Nuance<\/strong> When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you experience a surge of Sakina<\/strong> (tranquillity). You become less reactive to others’ flaws and more patient with your own. You start looking for the Khayr<\/strong> (goodness) in everyone you meet, while staying mindful of the boundaries needed for your own safety. This nuanced view prevents the “betrayal” we feel when a “good” person lets us down, and it keeps us humble enough to know that we too are capable of mistakes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s Find the Path Together<\/strong> At Di\u00e1logo Rahmah<\/strong>, we believe that embracing human complexity is the key to healthy communities. We know it\u2019s hard to forgive those who have hurt us or to admit our own hidden flaws. We offer a safe and open space to discuss how to view yourself and others through a lens of balanced compassion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you find it difficult to balance your expectations of people with their human reality?<\/strong> We invite you to a free, private conversation with a Muslim expert. We are here to listen and explore how accepting the “gray areas” of human nature can lead to more meaningful and peaceful connections.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reach out to us at Rahmah Dialogue today to start your conversation.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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